Positive psychology is not just amateur self-help. It is a serious scientific discipline based on solid, empirical research.
The Happiness Institute, in Australia, puts the principles of positive psychology into practice by providing key strategies and action plans, amongst other things, that can help us all live a happier life.
Did you know it has been proven that optimistic people are much less likely to die of heart attacks than pessimists?
As the founder and Chief Happiness Officer of The Happiness Institute, Dr. Happy
is frequently asked about happiness.
As such, we thought you might like to see
some of the more common questions along with his responses.
Q: What is The Happiness Institute and what’s your role there?
A: The Happiness Institute was Australia’s first, and remains its only, organisation
focused solely on promoting happiness in individuals, couples, families and
organisations.
After working for more than a decade as a clinical psychologist I established The
Happiness Institute in an attempt to promote the principles of positive
psychology. Rather than helping people go from minus 10 (i.e. distress) to zero
(i.e. normal), I wanted to spend more time helping people go from zero to
positive 10 (real and meaningful happiness).
At The Happiness Institute we promote happiness through our coaching, courses
and consulting activities by teaching the proven and effective strategies that
have evolved from the exciting new field of positive psychology. This includes
(among other things) teaching optimistic thinking skills, helping individuals and
groups identify and utilise their core strengths, and encouraging as many as
possible to build positive relationships.
My role is as founder and CHO (Chief Happiness Officer). My responsibilities
primarily revolve around developing and delivering happiness programs, training
others to deliver our programs and increasingly, consulting with organisations to
enhance happiness and positivity within their teams and businesses. I also spend
much of my time educating the public about happiness and positive psychology coaching, as well as writing and speaking.
Q: What exactly is “happiness”?
A: Happiness, for us here at The Happiness Institute, is a term that covers a range
of positive emotions. Ultimately it means different things to different people; it’s
an entirely subjective experience. For some, the experience of happiness is one
of predominately “high arousal” feelings such as joy and excitement; for others, it
involves more “low arousal”, but equally important, emotions such as calm,
contentment, peace and tranquillity.
Ideally, we should all try to experience and enjoy all these different forms of
positive emotions but the reality is that some people will tend more to the high
arousal end of the spectrum (e.g. extroverts) while others (e.g. introverts) might
be more likely to seek out low arousal forms of happiness.
It should also be noted, here, that at The Happiness Institute we don’t believe
anyone will be 100% happy 100% of the time. True happiness involves
recognising that as humans it’s perfectly normal to experience the full range of
emotions including so called “negative” ones such as anger, sadness, anxiety
and stress. They key, however, is responding to and managing these emotions so
that they don’t unduly or excessively impact on functioning and that they don’t
persist for too long. Where possible, it’s also important to try to learn from
unpleasant and difficult circumstances as doing so can actually enhance
happiness in the long term.
Q: What do people think will make them happy, as compared to what actually
makes them happy?
A: One of the biggest mistakes many people make is to think they’ll find
happiness in “external” things such as money and/or material possessions.
Although these things aren’t “bad” we know from the research, and from our
considerable experience in this area, that the positive feelings we get from
“stuff” is only short lived, it’s only temporary and relatively superficial.
In contrast, what really contributes to real and meaningful happiness are
variables such as good quality relationships, optimistic thinking, compassion for
others, the ability to identify and utilise strengths and the practice of strategies
such as appreciation and gratitude.
In fact, at The Happiness Institute we believe happiness is something you choose
(see “The Happiness Institute’s CHOOSE philosophy – 6 powerful positive
psychology strategies”).
Q: How dependent is happiness on favourable events in one's life? How
dependent is happiness on a predisposition to be happy?
A: Partly and partly! Anyone experiencing significant negative (or traumatic)
events will find it harder to be happy. At the same time, happiness depends less
on what happens to us and more and how we think about (or interpret) what
happens to and goes on around us.
There’s no doubt that happy people think about the world in a fundamentally
different way – a more optimistic way. Optimistic thinking is certainly positive
thinking but it’s also realistic thinking. So even when bad things happen to happy
people they think about events in a constructive and helpful way, looking for
solutions rather than just focusing on problems. As for a happiness predisposition – there’s no doubt that as “biological animals”
our happiness is partly dependent on our genes. But the contribution of
predisposing factors to happiness is only about 30-50% which means there’s at
least 50-70% of our happiness that’s within our control!
As noted above, at The Happiness Institute we believe happiness is something
you “choose” and it’s the choices we make, every minute of every day that
largely determine our happiness.
Q: What effect does the self-comparison between oneself and another have on
happiness levels?
A: Comparing ourselves to others, as a general rule, is not very helpful –
especially if we compare ourselves to others who’re “better off” than we are on
whatever we’re comparing. For instance, those people who compare
themselves to others who’re wealthier tend to feel dissatisfied with what they
have (i.e. unhappy). At the same time, however, those who compare
themselves to others who’re lower on the socio-economic ladder tend to feel
better.
I’d encourage people to consider that seeking happiness is in
all of our interests as happy people are more generous, more altruistic and they
do more good things for others. If we all, at home and at work, do more to
create happy and positive environments then we’ll all, ultimately benefit.
Happiness should, in any context, be considered a front line priority!
For more information about The Happiness Institute’s coaching, courses or
corporate consulting activities please feel free to email or call.
After all…life’s too short not to be happy!
www.thehappinessinstitute.com
ph:02 9221 3306
info@thehappinessinstitute.com
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